How to prepare for a great conversation
You only get one chance to make a great impression, so you want to feel confident you’re equipped and confident that you’ve done your best. But, how do you leave a great first impression? How do you get them to be excited to continue to have conversations with you?
Many times when people go into conversations, they choose to go with the flow. They see what comes up, they wing it, and then see how the other person responds. It’s really important to understand what your intent and focus is when entering into any conversation. What is the intent? Your purpose? The more clear you are, the more prepared and confident you will be with the first impression you left.
And the more prepared you are, the closer you get to actually getting what you want— a meaningful and compatible connection.
How you’d like to be described
How do you hope others describe you after you’ve met? There are descriptive words people think about when they reflect on who they’ve just spoken with. Some positive descriptive words for a great first impression are:
It’s important to know how you want to come across on your first impression. When you choose a descriptive word, you evaluate how you’ll show that attribute, and make it a point to speak in a way to capture those words.
If you’re unaware of how you currently come across, the best way to find out is by asking those your current friends (the most recently met, the better). Ask your friends “Remember the first time you met me? How would you describe your first impression of me?” With the words they share, select a few you want to focus on exuding in your next conversations. Because these are descriptors your friends have chosen, you can be confident that you already have it.
Are your friends’ answers unclear? They can’t find the words? Or maybe you don’t feel comfortable asking any friends? Another great way to find out is through psychometric tests. These tests use psychometric science to assess who you really are, and your inner characteristics.
With this new awareness of yourself (or maybe things you’ve always known it, but the psychometric test confims), you’ll feel confident demonstrating the words that describe you. The more clear you are on your descriptors, the more you can make great first impressions and create long-term compatible friends and partners.